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  • Hard Times Hurting Heartland Families Save Email Print
    "You've gotta decide between bills, gas and food"
    Posted: 3:12 PM May 14, 2008
    Last Updated: 8:04 PM May 14, 2008
    Email Address: sixonline@wowt.com

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    We're paying more these days for just about everythinhg just about everywhere, at the grocery store, the gas station and for insurance. It's taking a toll on metro families.

    Lena Claussen of Omaha is worried she'll soon have to make the choice between gassing up her car or giving her 7-year-old the medication he needs. She worries it's a sign of the times and wonders how many other families are in the same bind she's in.

    Two-year-old Xander Claussen's only job in life is to play. His mother's job is to shoulder the worries in hard economic times. "You've gotta decide between bills, gas and food,” says Lena. The higher costs are painfully present at the grocery store with staples like milk up 26 percent from last year and eggs up 40 percent.

    Grocery bills are just one more thing adding to Lena's concerns. With four kids, she stays home. "And it's not by choice, it's I don't have any other way right now."

    Lena says she can't go back to work because day care costs too much. Her husband's job pays the bills, but doesn't cover health insurance. "It was just not within our means to be able to afford."

    The kids were covered by Medicaid, but her husband's paycheck just got a kick. It puts them just over the cut-off income for Medicaid. "I think people need to be looked at a little bit more closely, on an individual basis instead of just a statistic."

    She doesn't know how they'll cover 7-year-old Bryce's prescriptions. "If he doesn't take them, he lashes out real bad. That ADHD, it's brutal."

    She says even covering the basics is a hard road these days. There are no easy answers, just shared struggles, which Lena predicts we'll be seeing more of. "It's not just me that I worry about. There's lots of other families."

    Lena's not quite sure what her next step will be. She did contact Congressman Lee Terry's office and encourages other families to contact lawmakers as well to bring more attention to the need for affordable health care coverage.

    She'd like to see the system change, to look at individual cases more closely, rather than an across-the-board income cut-off.

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    Posted by: Steve on May 19, 2008 at 08:34 PM
    Education is key. Once I'm done with med school, my family won't have to worry about these concerns. Perhaps Lena and her husband should have gotten a good education before they started popping out kids.

    Posted by: denise on May 19, 2008 at 12:34 PM
    to irishman...you are a terrible person and i pray that you do not live a life without love and compassion. may God have mercy on your soul. Would you have said that to your parents who had you? How do you think you got here? We had 3 children and went thru tough times as well in 1986. We were military living in Hawaii on base and had food stamps the whole 4 years we were there. Whithout them we did not have money for food. I did not buy junk or spend them to have cash for ciggs or beer. as i saw plenty of others do. I did not work as day care would have taken all of my money. I stayed at home and did some babysitting once in a while as well as baked and decorated cakes. I did find things i could do to make some extra money once in a while if we needed it. As far as today goes with the gas prices i am starting to walk to work and i will be doing other things to make money without having to drive. I pray for this family that they will have plenty of money for their needs.

    Posted by: Cornell Booth on May 19, 2008 at 10:48 AM
    This town is lazy,racist,slow,boring,broke, and filled with very little hope. I'm saving up my money and heading south ASAP

    Posted by: to irishman sean on May 19, 2008 at 10:23 AM
    I do hope that you never have children or if you do they are perfect with no problems. You do not have any compassion at all. The child in the story has a disease and no parent expects that their child will have problems. As a parent and a grandparent of children with disabilities you disgust me. Many parents have children that are fine at birth and then develop problems what would you suggest we do with them? My daughter developed diabetes at age eight and at twenty five doesn't qualify for help and her meds were over $150 a month just for the insulin. She was struggling until we found the needymeds.com website. At least the companies are more compassionate than you

    Posted by: Mary on May 19, 2008 at 09:15 AM
    I believe that our society has failed our citizens. Not just families are hurting. The young adults from middle class families generally do not qualify for any type of aid, education or otherwise. Raising a family today is a very difficult job that so many choose not to attempt. I personnally spend a great deal on adult children due to the condition of the economy. These concerns are of no consequence to our leaders. The trend seems to be, the leaders know better than the majority who struggles to make ends meet. I feel strongly that my husband and I our fortunate to be able to help our adult children. I also feel great concern for those that do not have the means to help their children. Our leaders need to quit spending money on their dreams, their feathers in their caps and take seriously the failing infrastructure of this country, whether it be a cities infrastructure or the failure of families. I am tired of reading the rich college students opionions on the ease of life.

    Posted by: Lee on May 19, 2008 at 07:35 AM
    It is a major struggle everyday for my wife and I to get by as with everyone else. In a LOT of cases kids, handicapped & the elderly are WAY worse off then we will ever be due to circumstances beyond control. MANY of these families are just struggling on a fixed income. In Maine we have the majority of people on welfare that are capable to work but dont want to. Some of the people are abusing assistance but the ones that need it more get left out in the cold. Between my wife working as a Customer Service Mgr @ Walmart and me work 7-8 months a year at LL Bean (due to the fact there is no jobs here in Maine unless you fish) it is tough, even more when I'm laid off. When laid off I go to a daily temp facility DAILY, applying at jobs DAILY around town, & career centers to get the pressure off my wife. At the end of the year we are moving back to the Omaha area and we're looking forward to it. With the economy the way it is and getting worse it's a struggle 4 hardworking ppl.

    Posted by: Irishman Sean on May 19, 2008 at 12:05 AM
    DO NOT HAVE KIDS IF YOU CANT AFFORD THEM. All of you pro-life church snobs who are against contaceptives are ignorant. Contraceptives prevent financial difficulties such as the ability to raise and take care of kids.

    Posted by: laroyce on May 18, 2008 at 07:06 PM
    For some of you struggling to get medications check on the internet for a website called needymeds.com They help people to get meds from the compnies that make them. My daughter gets her insulin and her lyrica from that website.

    Posted by: Bill on May 17, 2008 at 06:35 PM
    All of us at one or another have hit on hard times. Some to a greater degree than others. People have a heart for your fellow man. My daughter and son-in-law are struggling to make it. My daughter is the main bread winner as my son-in-law is in constant from his back. He does work at a part time job a few hours a week. They have two daughters and they go to day care paid for by social services. They get help from food stamps and they live in our rental house. We don't get much rent from them, but they have a roof over their heads. You people that complain about people getting help, lighten up.

    Posted by: Confused on May 17, 2008 at 01:08 AM
    Umm I hate to break it to you "Anonymous" but living alone is a heck of a lot easier on the income then a family is. When I was living alone before I got married I managed because I only had to take care of me. There was no worry about whether or not children could be fed, or that children would be on the streets should things go under. If I was on the streets, it was my burden, not the burden of innocent children. And on a meager income I kept an apartment and could feed myself easily. Why should you need any help when you're an adult, and adults are supposed to be able to take care of themselves? My god one person and you're complaining about not receiving state help, where do you work? Mcdonalds for $3.00 an hour? If you can't help you and you alone, there is something wrong. And everyone who thinks that trying to get an education, that daycares cost little to nothing(they make more money then most), or that the Military (hehe) is a good idea then you need a wake up call.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 16, 2008 at 02:39 AM
    I don't know what all of you guys are complaining about what about the familys out there that don't have kids and live alone that try to get help and can not because they are told that they make to much or if they don't have kids they can not get help. I am one of them people I am trying to make it on my paychecks. I live paycheck to paycheck and I am barley making it. When I did go and ask for help I was told that I make to much money. If I could bring home what I make I would be sitting nice but after they take out taxes I bring home almost NOTHING!!! So stop complaing about everything and think of the people that don't have kids and are not married and are JUST MAKING IT!!!

    Posted by: Mel on May 15, 2008 at 09:11 PM
    I think it took a lot of courage for this woman to be interviewed and tell her story to the public. There are so many people in this same position and she's just speaking up for everyone who is struggling. So, to those of you who are making pre-judgements about her...show some compassion. she didn't ask for any money or to have the gov take care of her. she was just telling her story.

    Posted by: Brycer on May 15, 2008 at 09:10 PM
    I'd say get rid of the cable and the cell phone first. You are responsible for the children you create. Not the state, not the taxpayers. Suck it up and get a part-time job. You cry babies make me sick.

    Posted by: To Liz! on May 15, 2008 at 07:08 PM
    That's so very true. Families used to get by with just ONE pay-check, the man of the house's, Dad's. America have changed pretty drastically in certain areas. Having to "answer" to VERY SERIOUS MINDED RESPONSIBLE people in positions of power & authority SEEMS to have gone with the wind. Education SEEMS to have gotten better in some ways but worse in others, resulting with FEW financially stable adults BUDGETING both private & public funds/MONIES. Where will the new 2008 policies lead to? We're all in this together, America(s). There is room to grow. We all must do our part to work well, save well & then spend well. Those who don't do well; Those who cause hardship will have to be told- Stop! & carry your weight or face the Law & jail-time! It looks like the fair, decent & orderly system our fore-fathers used must be implemented again & ENFORCED! More crime/criminals? Then we need more Law Enforcement. And I mean GOOD OFFICERS & GOOD JUDGES & GOOD people to support them. DO WELL!

    Posted by: Denise on May 15, 2008 at 05:59 PM
    i am sick and tired of hearing all the complaining and name calling of this parent and her family. She is not complaining but stating a fact about the high cost of everything! If we would stop giving away our resourses to those who are not here legally there might be more to go around for those who need it. My daughter does not have insurance and her child is on medicade. thank god for the help she does get. She works very hard as well but with the cost of gas and driving to work it takes a toll on their money too. They struggle with paying all of their bills. They do not have cable or a home phone. they do have 1 cell phone and that costs them less since they share the plan with me. I have been walking to work. i know alot of people cannot do that but i am sick and tired of the gas prices as well as the milk and eggs. I also as when is it going to STOP? I will pray for Lena and that they are able to get the meds their son needs. God Bless us all for our needs to be met.

    Posted by: Jessie on May 15, 2008 at 05:08 PM
    For those of you who are complaining about the Medicaid system, do you realize that they qualify (honest hard-working people)also pay into the tax system? I understand the anger about people and illegals sitting on the welfare system, but medicaid is a medical insurance that keeps kids healthy, her husband has a job, in a way he is paying for his kids to be on medicaid. Quit judging people who have serious health conditions and need some assistance in those medications. Tell her to get a job, then you all turn around and say "where are the parents" when their children are in trouble, at least these children have a family unit at the dinner table on a regular basis. How many of you provide that for your family, please stop being holier than thou.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 15, 2008 at 04:34 PM
    I agree with Raymon - it's not about how many kids you have, nor how they came about. Right now the prices of everything are affecting everyone - no matter what the situation. Its hard all around. Kids are our future, precious and we should feel blessed we have them. As far as trying to make it pray. phil 4:6. As far as ADHD - it can be possible for the child to learn to work through life, school and everything with encouragement - possible for the child to learn to do with out medication - depending on the child. Many prayers to all families who are struggling to make ends meet.

    Posted by: Kristina on May 15, 2008 at 03:10 PM
    Jim, I couldn't have said it better myself!!

    Posted by: Michele on May 15, 2008 at 03:01 PM
    No one should have to make the choice between whether to buy food or medicine, both are necessities. I look at Lena's family and realize that we could all be in the same situation at one time or another. Let's not spend time judging people, let's spend time caring for those in need. Pay it forward really works! Give it a shot!

    Posted by: Susan on May 15, 2008 at 02:53 PM
    I'd like to know why there isn't a "Step Down" program for families on Medicaid? For example; You truly have a need, and are eligible for Medicaid. It is free. Then, as you work your way back up on your feet, you get to stay on the program, but begin paying "Income appropriate" premiums. Why has this not been looked into as a viable alternative? Probably because it makes sense.

    Posted by: Lisa on May 15, 2008 at 02:44 PM
    From someone who has "been there done that", I feel for you Lena. Being a single parent for 13 years I utilized the assistance from the government. However, I did it to better myself and my children. I did not sit at home and collect welfare. I went to school full time, worked part-time and got help for insurance & daycare. Now 3 years later I have graduated from college and have a good career going. (Recently married as well.) My husband makes VERY decent money and with my income and 3 children it is still very difficult right now. For those of you sitting in the judgment seat telling them not to have children is ridiculous. Speaking from experience as far as asking for help from the state it isn't assistance as it should be. For those who need help should get it. But can't because they "make too much." However, you can sit around all day & keep having babies unmarried and get all the assistance you want. Tell me how that is fair? Good luck to you & your family, Lena.

    Posted by: Jarbeau on May 15, 2008 at 02:40 PM
    To all of you who feel above the current economic troubles, please check your attitudes. In time, you will be affected and more than likely will be looking for help. It may not be from the government as much as from your neighbor. As my father always said, "What great depression. We were poor before it and we were poor after it. Thank God we had each other." Welfare is not breaking our economy, greedy people are.

    Posted by: Kristin on May 15, 2008 at 02:39 PM
    I am so digusted with these some of these comments!!! Peeople our country is a mess and we just don't do anything about it!!! I guess we all want to be poverty b/c that is where were heading even if u have no kids!!!!

    Posted by: Pam on May 15, 2008 at 02:02 PM
    I am in the same boat as many others. I have a child with ADHD, own a home, am a single mother & work. There are times that I get behind but many of the programs out there wont help people who are homeowners. They will just help people who are on government assistance & sit home all day getting all their bills paid. Times are tough & I have even contemplated selling the house but rent on an apartment is just about as much as my mortgage. I don't expect people to just give me money. I am a hard working person who is willing to work. It frustrates me that people have said such ignorant things on here. If you are that unhappy then keep your opinions to yourself. I think people on here are just trying to give decent suggestions, not belittle others. My hope and prayers are out there for all who are struggling. Keep your head held high even in those tough times. Trying to shield your child from the problems can be hard but it's ok for them to know that times can be tough

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 15, 2008 at 02:01 PM
    Here's one for ya, maybe you should have decided to not have four kids. I could only afford to have one because I'm paying for other people to have as many as they want at my expense!!

    Posted by: Steph on May 15, 2008 at 01:55 PM
    I'm with the rest of the commenters- get a night job while hubby is home. Work part time on the weekends. Do SOMETHING instead of waiting on things to get better. Fact is, they're not going to get better. This economy is headed downhill fast and it's going to be a rough ten years or so.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 15, 2008 at 01:27 PM
    im waiting for the standard republican reply....'get a better job'

    Posted by: S on May 15, 2008 at 01:20 PM
    FOR THOSE OF YOU THAT CAN NOT READ - (OR SPELL) IT IS TOUGH FOR ALL, SHE DID NOT SAY JUST FOR HER AND HER FAMILY - ALL! WHY DO YOU PEOPLE HAVE TO BE SO FULL OF HATE?

    Posted by: Ricochet000 on May 15, 2008 at 12:54 PM
    "Take me out to the ball game, take me out with the crowd..." Everyone..."buy me some..."

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 15, 2008 at 12:39 PM
    Bill you obviously don't know anything about true ADHD

    Posted by: Find a way on May 15, 2008 at 10:57 AM
    I know times are hard, but don’t toss your towel in yet. More people need to have some self pride and do for one self...I believe the Military is a great place to start. You will be given the tools you need to gain ground in the real world. Free health care is a huge benefit! Plus, the great workout you will get doing PT. Think about what is was like growing up; no one came knocking on the door with free money...our parents worked for it. I work hard for what I want and you better believe my "very" active son will do the same. If he thinks otherwise, boot camp here we come - in about 10 years. Ha-ha. People stop trying to get something for nothing, work for it, I am a single mother and I know times are hard, but our parents and grandparents did it and so can we. Work for it! Plant a garden! Get rid of the SUV! Stop with the tats, nails, cell phones and going out – spend more time giving values to your children and those around you.

    Posted by: marie on May 15, 2008 at 10:50 AM
    i am a single mother with two kids and both have adhd and i work a fulltime and part time job that has benefits for both. i do what i have to do and will not set around and wait for a hand out. i made them so i have to take care of them and not expect someone else to do it. i set aside one day a week for family time and they are all just find.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 15, 2008 at 10:34 AM
    When did people become so judgemental. You can't tell me that you are all perfect. This person is trying to figure out a way to make things work and is asking for new ideas. Yes things are hard for most, but some maybe able to figure things out easier then others or they don't have to deal with everything that someone else does. Lena, I wish I could suggest other ideas then what has already been suggested. The only thing I can offer is to keep your chin up and have faith that things will get better. Having a nephew that is autistic I have an idea of what you go thru with your son. Good luck and hope everything works out for you.

    Posted by: Michelle on May 15, 2008 at 10:07 AM
    There are assistance programs out there for help with medication, contact the company that makes your son's mediation they can help. That's crazy that someone would consider taking there child off of needed medication over gas and food pricing. There ae ways to get around this. How many of the kids are in school? one toddler in day care for a few hrs a day is not that expensive if you need the money, get a part time job, or work a different shift from your husband. There are ways around this, it's called not being a stay at home mom if you can not afford it. There are jobs out there also that cover insurance, maybe its time for a career change. I pay insurance for my two kids without help, you decided to have all four of your kids pay for them, quit relying on the state to pay for something you knew you would be needed.

    Posted by: llr on May 15, 2008 at 10:02 AM
    I'm sure the elderly women out there who raised 5 kids during the Great Depression are thinking to themselves "Oh, boo-hoo. Cry me a river; you don't know what bad off MEANS." I don't know when it happened (I am guessing the 1960s) but somehow everyone in this country started thinking they were owed something. Wrong answer folks; you work hard for what you get and in tough times you have to cut back. I'm sure there's plenty this family could let go of and have enough for bills, food and health care.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 15, 2008 at 09:50 AM
    I know Lena and her family and let me tell you people some things.These are good people they help others where they can even without being asked.Lena has been looking for work as well as raising her kids pretty much on her own since her husband works 12 hour days 6 days a week so those of you saying she's lazy you have another thing coming!As for birth control and 4 kids-Hello!99.9% effective two of them were while she was on the pill.I have never seen her abuse the system in the 3 years I've known her and she owns little to nothing.Her comment to look at people at an individual basis isn't actually about her so much as maybe we could all save some money if we would quit handing it out and do more at home studies giving it to people that really need it.Disabled, elderly and such.Everyone is attacking this like its all her but I don't see her driving around in a brand new car using food stamps maybe instead of being here you should contact our gov and yell at them about all this.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 15, 2008 at 09:29 AM
    It truely is sad how our views of others has changed so much through the years. From my understanding in all of this her spouse does work which means they pay the exact same taxes as the rest of you. No where in all of this did it say she recieved food stamps or any other services and her concern was primarily on her kids. These medicines are not cheap but I for one would much prefer know that my tax dollars are going to the american people vs foreign countries that refuse to help themselves. Lena-I feel your struggle and pray this all ends quickly. there are a lot of insurance companies out there that would be happy to help you while still looking into your finances. I know not all employers offer reasonable ins. Maybe you can find a probono lawyer to help go after your "ex" and hold him in contempt. i'll keep you in my prayers as well as those of you who feel the need to kick a person when they're already down. She was brave to take a stand and say we're all in trouble

    Posted by: Terri on May 15, 2008 at 09:25 AM
    To KR - why are you having children if you can't provide for them? Single with two kids?? Sounds like you created your own problem.

    Posted by: I have to agree with Steve on May 15, 2008 at 08:58 AM
    I understand that times get tough, as they do for everyone not just low income to middle income families. What would probably help out alot is having an education that will get you a good job. Education should have been your #1 priority before starting a family. I know it was mine and that is probably why I can support my family without struggling and complaining about things not being handed to me. Come on people get real, quit feeling sorry for people that do not help themselves. As an adult you should be responsible enough to know what you need to do to get you and your family by in life. EDUCATION IS IMPORTANT!!!!!

    Posted by: Sara on May 15, 2008 at 08:57 AM
    I understand life changing in an instant and when you think your gonna be ok mountains can come tumbling down upon I am single and do not have children but I do help my mother who is disabled and we had a similar situation in 2006 where we lost income and my mothers insurance and perscription benefits which in the end caused us to lose our house but through living through this situation and coming out the other end alive and happier and knowing that i can live throught it I can say to lena and her family it will be ok I promise you trust in God and always remeber people are praying for you and remeber the old saying 'that which does not kill you makes you stronger' you will see this through and be stronger for it

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 15, 2008 at 08:48 AM
    You know sometimes people just need a new perspective on things and need to ask for help when they feel they have no where to turn, and then others start judging them without knowing the full story. Why do people need to be so judgemental of others? Lena, the only additional suggestion I have for you that I don't think I read anywhere is to not give up and have faith that things will get better. It's always darkest before the storm.

    Posted by: Jim on May 15, 2008 at 08:09 AM
    Times are hard & people must live within their means. Whether that's down-sizing their home, do without the "extras", or get a second job. Ya do what ya have to do! Have some pride rather than just expect & demand that the "system" give out hand-outs! There are grants for the working poor to go to school & learn a trade. Hate to say it, but the military is an example for the poor who have no other way to provide for themselves while getting a skill they can apply when they get out. It's a great place to start. Not everyone needs to be a lifer. Welfare should be time-limited & NOT be given to illegals! Afterall, you can't go to another country & have them support you now can you?! It's NUTS that our Government supports that with our hard-earned tax money! While not taking care of our own. What's wrong with this picture?! EVERYTHING! Eliminate fraud! There should be NO Welfare but rather "Tradefare". Teach people skills & then employ them NOT just give out money every first of the month!

    Posted by: Liz on May 15, 2008 at 07:41 AM
    I am surprised that the folks posting don't realize that all of us used to get by on one income. Real wages have dropped since the 1970's, while costs have risen. Expect to have food costs go up 7.5% each year for the next five years! Where has the money gone? To the corporate elitists and politicians--a direct transfer of wealth. Wake up! Lee Terry is part of the problem, too!

    Posted by: disgusted on May 15, 2008 at 06:41 AM
    I know how you feel. Im in the same boat. I dont qualify for medicaid because my income is over the guidelines. I dont qualify for food stamps since I have to pay for health insurance for myself and my child. Yet imigrants can come over here and get everything. Where is the justice in that.

    Posted by: Bill on May 15, 2008 at 05:11 AM
    My daughter and son-in-law live in our rental house. The daughter works hard to support their daughters and son-in-law who is in constant pain becuse of his back. He works part time when he can. Thank goodness for Medicaid and thank god their daughters are healthy. We don't get rent from them, but they manage to pay the utilities. The main thing is that we didn't want to see them end up in a homeless shelter or in subsidized housing in an area of high crime. The wife and I would like to get rent on the house to make some improvements, but at least they have a roof over their heads and for the time being, not waking up to gunshots in the middle of the night - not yet.

    Posted by: Recruiter on May 15, 2008 at 01:35 AM
    Join the militray-free health care, honest paycheck.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 14, 2008 at 10:32 PM
    Come on people. This is nothing to worry about. Plaayyyy Ballllll!

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 14, 2008 at 10:26 PM
    bill without a capital "B" I do hope that you are kidding? And Steve, why focus your apparent anger on the people who are living off of State Health and stealing Disability benefits when they are more then capable of taking care of themselves without the "free ride". She's right, they need to look at cases person by person, maybe it would get rid of hundreds upon thousands of these free loaders getting fat off our money, buying out these good homes in nice neighborhoods, and driving those 08 SUV's while good hardworking families starve and suffer with much, much less. Simply because they are unlucky enough to be considered more capable to take care of an entire family with a small income. (And $15 an hour is small any more) Don't blame her or her family for trying to make a living. Blame the ones who steal our money instead, it would make more sense wouldn't it?

    Posted by: Chris on May 14, 2008 at 10:14 PM
    Bill: Those who don't live in the struggle of being a parent whose child who suffers from ADHD, Autism, etc should thank God that they can sit back in ignorant judgment of those who do.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 14, 2008 at 09:46 PM
    Bill: Adhd kids dont "run off" energy!! What are you talking about? Do some research before you make an idiot out of yourself.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 14, 2008 at 09:35 PM
    All the crying about poor me needs to stop. The "entitlement" generation needs to get a clue. Stop looking around for someone to help you out of the situation that you put yourself in and just fix it. Get another job, cut your expenses, shut off your cable and read a book but just stop with the whining.

    Posted by: Lena on May 14, 2008 at 09:30 PM
    Ok everyone I want to clear the air on a couple of things if I may. First off ADHD/ODD isn't something you can just run off he has violent bursts of anger that turns into violence thus the needing of medication especially in school. Secondly the whole thing with medicaid I would have never needed it if my ex husband would pay regular support and have insured our kids as he was court ordered. The truth be known that every once in awhile in our lives we all have to ask for help so please don't judge us for doing just that. Always keep in mind that life can change in an instant and this could be you. My decision to call this station wasn't to complain we were taken off of "welfare" but to simply point out that things are getting overly difficult. It's my right as a person and parent to be scared about what is going on and hope that somebody has a suggestion in which we can follow. I sincerely thank those of you who have given kind words and ideas I will start looking into it tomarrow.

    Posted by: kim on May 14, 2008 at 09:29 PM
    Hey its tough times for everyone - we are all trying to make it work - perhaps she can find an evening job - or like others have suggested something in the home. Best of luck to them - hang in there.

    Posted by: J on May 14, 2008 at 09:28 PM
    @Bill in Bellevue - there is a difference between ADHD and just being bored/spoiled and you have confused the two. ADHD means being unable to focus on a subject for a given length of time - or obsessing on a subject, to the exclusion of all else. Lack of impulse control. Need to touch, so that the brain's input is matching with the body's input. Constantly being overwhelmed with sensations. It is NOT a matter of working off excess energy. It IS a matter of providing a structured environment and consistent learning at home, school, play and church and the ability to accomplish that learning - which very often means medication. If Bryce's medical doctor made the diagnosis, why are you questioning it?

    Posted by: Carrie on May 14, 2008 at 09:20 PM
    When you have children you don't plan having kids that need medication on daily basis or having medical bills because your child has health problems. So many people in this country are against abortion but yet so many people are against families getting help from the government. What is this family suppose to do? I have 3 children and I stay home with them, not because we can afford too but because when I work, over 60% of my paycheck goes to childcare and I never get to spend time with my kids but a couple hours after school, and that's a job in itself making dinner and giving them baths, and reading to them before we tuck them into bed. We struggle with paying bills but I know this is what's best for our children and in 5 years it will all be worth it. Things will get better for this family hopefully, and just think when you think you have it bad someone always has it worse.

    Posted by: KR on May 14, 2008 at 08:55 PM
    I am a single mother of 2 young children (2months and 5yr) and I completely feel the pain. I am basically working just to pay for daycare costs. My take home pay (after daycare) is only 500. Which is not enough to pay for medical, gas, food, utilities, and rent. I get by with just the necessities my boys need, and anymore, I cant even afford that! I make too much for help from the state but yet, not enough to make it on my own. Tell me how that is right?! I am stressed beyond belief and have no where to turn to get back up on my feet! Something needs to change.

    Posted by: Anonymous on May 14, 2008 at 08:14 PM
    The only thing I can suggest for the time being is for her to possibly get a job in a daycare center so that she can have free child care while earning a paycheck? Or possibly opening a small in-home daycare of her own. Some childcare places offer health insurance as well. I wish her all the luck in the world!

    Posted by: bill on May 14, 2008 at 08:07 PM
    Yes, its harsh steve. But true. Or maybe take the 'adhd' kid to the park and play baseballwith him for a couple hour and let him run off all that energy. I promise you...you won't need the prescription.

    Posted by: Cynthia on May 14, 2008 at 07:58 PM
    As a mother of four I can relate to your predictament! One solution is for you and your husband to work opposite shifts, so you do not have to use day care. Even a part-time job at night will greatly help your family's income. It helps to look at it as a "temporary" arrangement, even if it goes on for several years. Try to see it as what works best for your family at the time, and that you can change arrangements when you need to. I don't know your children's ages, but when mine were younger, I provided part-time child care in my home. It's not for everyone, and now that my kids are older and need to be at different places, it is no longer an option. I hope you and you will find a positive solution for you and your family!

    Posted by: Shirley on May 14, 2008 at 07:41 PM
    Child care being too expensive is an excuse for not wanting to get off your butt and work. I work day shift and my husband works evening shift so we don't have to pay for child care. Can Lena not do the same instead of having the government pay for her children's insurance? I'd rather spend my $ on other things but I choose to be responsible and pay for health insurance. Quit your complaining-the high cost of food and gas effect all of us.

    Posted by: Staci on May 14, 2008 at 07:38 PM
    To Steve....I have ONE child..whos 16..and I work two jobs and I am barely making it. It isn't about how many kids you have...that wasn't the point of the story. The point was of how hard it is these days for people in the lower middle to lower income brackets. At least the father is able to work and provide some income. And isn't a deadbeat Dad. My child doesn't have a father in her life to help provide for her it is all me...we are better off without him, but in these hard times, it would be nice to have that second income. Good luck Lena....

    Posted by: Erin on May 14, 2008 at 07:27 PM
    My suggestion to those of you who want to belittle this family you might want to think twice, there could always be more to the story than what we know. I honestly don't think that she interviewed to say "I need to have welfare" so much as to give us all a little more insight into our nations crisis. After reading this I began to think if what I would guess is a low middle class family is starting to struggle this badly how long will it be before it really hits the rest of us? My question in all of this is what is being done in order to cap these rising prices before it gets any worse?

    Posted by: Chris on May 14, 2008 at 07:17 PM
    Steve: Yeah, darn them for having children and then making the mistake of getting up and working hard enough to get a raise, right? They should have seen this recession coming evidently.

    Posted by: Raymon on May 14, 2008 at 06:55 PM
    It's not about How big a family is or how the kids came about. Its about the basic values and morals of this country. The government racks up the bill and jacks the prices up on all things in this country to the point that people have to turn to alternative ways to sustain life, and survive. I grew up in a poor family and I dont make a lot of money but I also find myself deciding what bills to pay and what not to pay to feed my family.

    Posted by: Dan on May 14, 2008 at 06:26 PM
    My thoughts on people crying about paying more nowadays for everything... Hmmmm.. I bet 90% have cable tv and cell phones still. This story is kind of sad. I feel bad for them. Hopefully they dodn't have cable tv or cell phones. It sounds like they can't afford them. I hope they can make it through this tough time. I myself can easily afford the higher prices right now I just dropped my cable bill. This allows me to spend more time with my family outdoors enjoying the weather. By the way. I could very easliy afford things with cable but this way instead of complaining about higher prices I am happy it caused me to spend more time with family. Maybe in winter I will get cable again.

    Posted by: Beverly on May 14, 2008 at 06:16 PM
    I am sorry to say that, but I do not feel sorry for her. I work 2 jobs-just to make ends meet. And neither one of my jobs pay me enough at this time. I am single person with no children and it is hard for me. I wish I could get Medicaid or other support from the government. What about the elderly? They live on a VERY fixed income and most of them are not phyically able to work. Lena you are able to work. And as far as daycare some jobs offer daycare. Look into it.

    Posted by: brandi on May 14, 2008 at 05:22 PM
    TO ,to steve, you are exactly right!! i am in the same position that this lady is in as far as family size,etc., the only difference is, im still able to work along with my husband. and you know what else? i work at a gas station!!! soon im going to have to get a second job just to be able to go to my first job!! at the gas station!!!! to lena, AMEN SISTA!!!!! i will pray for your family along with mine and all others who struggle daily like us without "abusing" the system!!!! good luck to you and your family!

    Posted by: Mike on May 14, 2008 at 05:11 PM
    No, the comment about having too many kids is not harsh. that is the problem indeed; these people do not know how to stop having kids, then they can't pay for them and want everyone else to pay for them through welfare and medicade. TRY BIRTH CONTROL. My mom and dad had 7 kids, no welfare, medicaid or other assistance. My dad worked days, my mom worked nights, so we didn't have to worry about child care expenses. My mom and us kids had a huge garden, grew all the food we could, and canned our fruits and vegetables for the winter months. It was all a family affair. My dad mowed lawns in the evening and other jobs. People now live well beyond their means. Learn to live with what you have.

    Posted by: J on May 14, 2008 at 05:07 PM
    I just drove past a Walgreen's marquee that had a sign "No Rx Insurance? See us". As I recall, there are some plans out there for prescriptions if you don't have insurance - the drug companies will sometimes help out. Perhaps something like that will help out with Bryce. Good luck, Lena.

    Posted by: JIM on May 14, 2008 at 04:49 PM
    Perhaps Mr Terry and other representatives of the people, should address the record profits of the oil companies, war profiteers and the daily increase in gas prices. Big business runs america, not the people. No candiadte has any economic plan or way to address the monetary rape of the american people by corporations.

    Posted by: HARDWORKING MOM on May 14, 2008 at 04:40 PM
    Us folks who work hard without the help of the govt seemed to be the ones to get screwed. Way to go Nebraksa, the politicians get richer and richer and the rich well they just keep getting richer to. Talk about an unfair system. I earn decent money but after they take out my taxes for million dollar bldgs and to help people on welfare and everything else. I am not left with very much PRICES ARE OUTRAGEOUS.

    Posted by: Steve on May 14, 2008 at 04:27 PM
    No, it's not harsh. People should not be having more than 3 kids (2 would be preferable). There are limited resources within the US and the world and people like this couple are irresponsible and should not be on Medicare. Little surprise that one of their kids is one of the overdiagnosed ADHD.

    Posted by: Stacey on May 14, 2008 at 04:25 PM
    I have to agree with the previous poster - if you can't afford 4 children, don't have 4 children. People need to start thinking. Join the rest of the world and get a part time job if needed. You can work evenings when your spouse is home or pick up a weekend job. Simply have to buckle down based on prior decisions.

    Posted by: To Steve on May 14, 2008 at 04:09 PM
    Steve--that was kind of harsh. This family obviously is going through a hard time, as are a lot of families these days. I do not want to work for those that abuse the system either, but it doesn't appear that's the case here. Either way, it's not up to you or I to judge the choices they have made in family planning.

    Posted by: Thus the Problem on May 14, 2008 at 03:39 PM
    Medicaid should only be for those who can not work, period. I would rather not pay for insurance either, but it is either pay now, or expect others to pay later, whether in higher prices or more welfare. Actually, insurance should be mandatory if an employer offers a program.

    Posted by: Steve on May 14, 2008 at 03:23 PM
    Why didn't she and her husband consider this before having 4 kids? Stop having so many kids if you can't support them.

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