Searching For Her Medical History By Finding Her Birth Mother

By: Roger Hamer, Brian Mastre Email
By: Roger Hamer, Brian Mastre Email

Knowing our family's medical history is important. Sometimes it can be the difference between life and death.

But what if we don't know that information?

One woman's search for that medical history resulted in her finding her birth mother.

Nancy Feldman's childhood was everything one could ask for.

Even though she was adopted at two months old.

"I had always believed that my birth mother had died shortly after I was born," Nancy said.

As an adult, Nancy contracted two medical afflictions...one passed on to a son

A doctor convinced Nancy to learn her medical history...by finding her birth mother.

Nancy returned to where her adoption took place --- the Nebraska Children's Home at Fontenelle Blvd and Pratt St..

She and caseworker Becky Crofoot began the search for Nancy's past.

Nancy wasn't obsessed with the search because of her happy childhood.

"Why worry about this now?," she said. "It was basically curiosity that drove me...no feeling like I need to be reunited.

It's become a 17 year partnership between the two women.

"Nancy would take her time. and look at every aspect and then try to find the cherry in the whole thing that was positive," Crofoot said.

An exhaustive search ensued...until finally...

"My birth mother was found," Nancy said.

Her birth mother was 28 years-old when she put baby Nancy up for adoption.

The reaction of being found so many years later stunned the mother.

"She didn't want contact," Nancy said.

"She was angry," Crofoot said of the birth mother. "She felt that she had been betrayed which was common for birth mothers of that era."

"Although I was disappointed and possibly a little hurt in the beginning, I understood it," Nancy said.

Nancy discovered her mother --- who passed in 2009 --- lived a good life.

"That's what I wanted for her," Nancy said. "I didn't want this to have been the most crushing event of her life that altered it forever."

Although it was a rollercoaster journey, Nancy is glad she got on board.

"I was really glad that I did that because I discovered more about myself," she said.

Crofoot convinced Nancy's birth mother to provide information that can help Nancy's future medical situation.

The women were so captivated by the experience they wrote a book entitled 'Family Medical History...Unknown...Adopted."

Nancy said she's had contact with her half siblings following her birth mother's death and has developed a good relationship with one of them.


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