The old handwritten school note is now a message on an app. For the Rader family, one app led to a creepy situation a few weeks ago.
"It all involved her phone, it involved an app called Kik. We were aware that Kik was on her phone, however we had no idea that Kik would provide such, the ability to have that kind of material pop up," said Doug Rader, father of three.
His 11-year-old daughter was sent a picture of a man's genitalia. She came across the profile when she clicked a button in the Kik app trying to find a random person to play a game.
The problem with the app, from Rader's perspective is that the app is deceiving. From just the screen shot of the phone, the app looks like a game, but in reality its a message board.
So why not just use text messaging, if sending messages and pictures is all the 11 year old wanted to do.
"Because all my friends were doing it and my friends, some of them have iPod's, so they can't like use messaging, they have to use like an app," the girl.
And she is right, with out a phone you can't send messages. One of the few other ways is by using an app.
As she points out, phones are definitely not the only way kids can message and access apps. IPads , iPod's, nooks, and really almost any device that connects to the Internet will send a message. All it takes is the internet; it only takes a user name and a password to login to almost any app found on electronic devices.
The Rader admits they thought Facebook was the real enemy when their young girls started showing interest with social media and apps. But looking back, they admit at least on Facebook there are hundreds of people watching their profiles. On an app, it is secretive and hidden from most people to see. Apps create a much better environment for deception and deviance to breed,
"You are not passing notes anymore, you are passing notes to the world, everyone gets to read it," said Rader.
For Rader's 11 year-old, it's back to pen and paper until her parents feel her maturity level matches the level of the apps she wants to play.