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  • Staton Daughter Speaks Save Email Print
    "Everything's going to work out..."
    Posted: 11:07 AM Oct 2, 2008
    Last Updated: 12:44 PM Oct 3, 2008
    Reporter: Jaime McCutcheon
    Email Address: sixonline@wowt.com

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    Gary Staton's oldest daughter spoke Thursday with Channel 6 News about her father's decision to turn her nine brothers and sisters over to authorities under Nebraska's new Safe Haven Law.

    Amoria Micek was not abandoned last Wednesday because she's 18 years old. She sat down for the interview with her maternal grandparents, Jack and Joanne Manzer.

    All three said they hold no ill will toward Staton and want to move forward and do what's right for all the children involved.

    Amoria still keeps in touch with her dad. "I wouldn't call it tough, outsiders might call it tough. I speak to him almost on a daily basis and it's not really anything major, just make sure he's doing okay and everything's working out."

    The family lost their mother more than a year ago. "Very close," says Amoria. "I think after mom died I was kind of brought up as the ‘female figure’ I guess. You just help out around the house, you cook, you clean, you make sure everybody does chores, you help with homework and I mean that's what family does. You get things done."

    For Gary Staton, things weren't getting done when it came to finances and he felt like the Safe Haven Law was the answer.

    "He explained to me why, the reasons for it and I accepted it and said okay," says Amoria. "That he felt like he couldn't provide for them and rather than having the kids homeless or without utilities, he decided he would take up on the Safe Haven act."

    It left this large family in limbo, full of confusion and a little anger, though Amoria says there's no hate. "We don't hate him. We dislike what he did, but we still love him, we still care."

    The three believe the next trip to court will result in an aunt getting custody of the children because, according to Jack, "Everything is set up for the kids now".

    Joanne says she "wants them (the children) to stay with family, someone they know," and all three want the nine to know they are loved.

    Asked about the situation, Amoria, Jack and Joanne agreed they don't like the fact Staton turned the children over to the state, but they understand his situation.

    "We wish that he would have been able to come to us with this, but we don't hate him," says Joanne.

    "Those kids love him and we don't want those kids to think we hate their father, we don't. We know he was overwhelmed and stressed, we wish he would have come to us, but he didn't. So now we have to move forward and do what's in the best interest of the children."

    Amoria says what's important now is to move forward and not to dwell on the past. She's made sure her siblings know that. "Everything's going to work out and they know that."

    The next juvenile court hearing for the Staton children is scheduled for next week. Seven children were in the care of a great aunt in Lincoln, but a Douglas County judge ordered them back to foster care, in part because of sleeping arrangements.

    The state has appealed the order, saying it's in the children's best interest to stay together with a relative.

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    Posted by: Dianne on Oct 8, 2008 at 08:44 AM
    The state isn't raising the kids though, it said they will go to an aunt. That isn't wasting tax dollars. Calm down.

    Posted by: Gloria on Oct 4, 2008 at 10:34 AM
    To Omaha: I stand by my statement that folks who have ten kids should provide for them, with life insurance at least. I don't care how much people "enjoy" their children, having a large family involves the maturity to look ahead. If Gary lost jobs, he should have had unemployment pay, unless he just quit a job or was fired. It is too bad he didn't seek help to fix the problems. I know we should help the children - I wholeheartedly approve. However, he needs to pay child support or somehow be involved rather than just throwing off his responsibility. Sure, people go through hard times - I've had those too - but having ten children isn't a sensible decision unless you have a financial plan to take care of the family. That's my point.

    Posted by: karen on Oct 4, 2008 at 04:16 AM
    Smart man who worked the system to get taxpayers money for his children. They are in the care of the aunt, yes that's true, but they are under the authority of the Foster System. That means that the aunt is going to be paid for each child since they are now wards of the state. Family probably did know of the problems, but chose this route so that at least hard working tax-payers would pay to raise these children. Shame on the father for causing the hard working tax-payer to pick up after your mess. If the family does indeed love these children, they should not be taking in these kids with the condition that they receive a check every month. Take in how ever many you can afford yourself. I truly do not believe these children should be raised by family that has to be paid.

    Posted by: ANON on Oct 3, 2008 at 10:31 PM
    Thats where I like to feel my taxes are going. I work hard for my money and the government takes their share. If I can feed a child or pay for dental exams or an emergency room visit for a needy family than I'm still proud to be American. I would like to know where all of you HOLIER THAN THOU tax payers taxes are supposed to be going. Seems to me we are all in the same boat. There are many government programs out there that will assist needy less fortunate families. If we aren't suppose to use them than where does the money go?

    Posted by: Gods child on Oct 3, 2008 at 05:12 PM
    Thank you Nebraska!Nebraska was the last state to get this law and Just maybe did it right after all.The kids are safe.Thank you to the Dad. Thanks to the tax payers.Just MAYBE Nebraska law saved SOMEONES KIDS IT WAS WORTH IT ALL!!!!

    Posted by: omaha on Oct 3, 2008 at 04:59 PM
    This goes to Gloria, Rebel was'ent lazy as everone put it She was a very good mother she always maintained her house's you cant always believe what you read in the paper or in any other articles. She always put those kids 1st last and always until the day she died, yes they fell on hard times but everyone does sometimes or another. As for her getting a job she stayed home with the kids while gary worked and when gary dident work she worked they were a good team those kids are very respectfull and very behaved And extremly Smart if they were such bad parents the state would never gave those kids back in the 1st place So Dont Jugde A Book by It's Cover. UNLESS YOU WALKED A MILE IN THEIR SHOES...

    Posted by: ANON on Oct 3, 2008 at 03:08 PM
    Wow, all of a sudden this is about tax payers and girlfriends. I thought it was about 9 children needing love and attention. I'm a tax payer also. If there are 9 or 9 million children out there needing my taxes to have something to eat or dress with or put a roof over their head for a night, by all means use my tax dollars please!

    Posted by: Anonymous on Oct 3, 2008 at 02:03 PM
    Isn't it about time for Channel 6 to put this news story to bed.

    Posted by: Anonymous on Oct 3, 2008 at 12:21 PM
    I just hope and pray that the state does not let these kids down. They need someone watching out for them. The state has a responsibility to make sure they are being well cared for. I have not heard much about the lady who took them and I sincerely hope she is the best caregiver for the children. From what I have heard, she is a single older woman and raising all of these kids would be a challenge for even a young married couple. To the state workers involved, do the right thing and protect these children. Monitor their care!!

    Posted by: Hey Bill!!! on Oct 3, 2008 at 12:14 PM
    this is Brandi!!! so you think I sit at home on my butt using YOUR tax dollars or something? well you need to WAKE UP and quit thinking you know everything!!! I support SIX kids and only get medical assisstance for THREE of them!!!And I only take them to the doctor when they get sick and it is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY!!! which is hardly ever, I have very healthy children. Meanwhile MY husband works 60 hours a week minimum while I go to school FULL TIME so that when I am done with school I WILL NOT NEED THE MEDICAL ASSISSTANCE FROM THE STATE!!!!!! OH and by the way, I have also pulled my weight around here when it comes to bringing in money up until 2 weeks ago when I decided that it was more important to focus on the schooling that I am paying 40 thousand dollars for. All without the help of YOUR tax dollars at that!!!

    Posted by: Oh Please on Oct 3, 2008 at 11:48 AM
    No I do not have 9 children and very good reason so. I have one child and everyone keeps asking when I will have another, and my answer is...not for a couple of years b/c one is expensive enough, if I had the money I would have another in a heart beat but it is not fair to my child if I can't take care of him so I will only live within my means and not ruin someone else's life. I do feel sorry for these kids, but now they want us to donate?? The father gives up and now they want us to pay for those kids. He made the choice so he should fix the problem Seriously, if only it were always this easy. I will gladly give up a lot of things and let you all pay for them, but I am not that pathetic. Sorry but I don't feel sorry for this man (notice I did not refer to him as a father b/c he is not one cause he gave that up 2 weeks ago...loser)

    Posted by: Steve on Oct 3, 2008 at 11:15 AM
    To Debbie.....Yes, help is ALWAYS out there. If it's not in Omaha, look to another state. Had a problem of my own, no help in Omaha, so had to look at another state. I'll admit it took a few months, but got the help I needed. LOOK HARD ENOUGH & YOU'LL FIND IT ! ! !

    Posted by: Steve on Oct 3, 2008 at 11:12 AM
    AMEN JILL ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! MY POINT EXACTLY ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !

    Posted by: Gloria on Oct 3, 2008 at 10:42 AM
    How many other families are there out there with large numbers of kids and irresponsible mothers/fathers. I believe it is irresponsible to keep having kids when you can't take care of the ones you have. Earlier articles said the mother was resistant to efforts by the welfare system to make her clean the house, get a job and just generally shape up.She just wanted more children. I hope this guy will get a vasectomy. We can't afford to take care of the next ten kids he could have.

    Posted by: Jeff.0 on Oct 3, 2008 at 10:14 AM
    Mel, why does having a girlfriend require spending money? You talk as if you know that Gary lavishes money on his girlfriend. How do you know? You are being materialistic, sexist, and judgmental without basis. Shame on you! I suppose you're in shock realizing your husband might find a girlfriend less than a year after you die. Get over yourself!

    Posted by: omaha on Oct 3, 2008 at 09:39 AM
    The family was always there for Gary, but he never not once came to any of us and asked for help.Gary did what he needed to do for those kids and i think he made the right choice to protect those kids and think of them first yea they had hard time just like any one of us.Take a look at your own back door before passing jugdment..

    Posted by: Mel on Oct 3, 2008 at 09:13 AM
    sorry, but I struggle feeling sorry for a man who has time/money for a girlfriend but not his kids. My heart does go out to the children, and only them. I'm sure this is about more than just money. He had a girlfriend less than a year after his wife dies? Come on, do the math...1 1 does not equal 11...it equals 2, therefore 9 of them must go. The guy and his girlfriend are jerks.

    Posted by: Jill on Oct 3, 2008 at 08:49 AM
    10 kids!! - if you can't afford them or take care of them - use birth control!! I'm tired of paying for other people's children who are on welfare because the parents can't or won't work - they just want a free ride.

    Posted by: Joe on Oct 3, 2008 at 12:27 AM
    To everyone defending this man, why don't you take them into your house and support them. I for one am tired of my taxes continually going up to take care of other people's responsibility!

    Posted by: Bill on Oct 2, 2008 at 11:06 PM
    Absolutely I think it was an easy decision for Mr. Staton. He didn't look into anything else to solve his problems....he saw people on the new dropping off their kids and he decided he would do the same. I haven't seen an interview with him explaining everything he did to try and avoid having to turn his kids over to the state. Obviously they have been in foster care before. And glad to see that Brandi is using my tax dollers so well. Wish I could get a little break in life but I have to work for a living.

    Posted by: Pam on Oct 2, 2008 at 10:46 PM
    I BLESS ALL THE STATON CHILDREN, THEIR FATHER, AND OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS OF THEIRS. For Brian, down on the Oct. 2, 5:48pm.......Ok, before he....and SHE... needs 2 to have a child...they should of looked at the finances?? How do you know, like when the children were alittle younger and they did have some money, and possibly the mother had gotten VERY sick, FOR ALONG TIME.....and maybe the insurance wouldn't pay it off? I don't know, but I've seen families like that.

    Posted by: Vallery Stewart on Oct 2, 2008 at 09:01 PM
    I am a former foster parent of the Staton children. I was heart broken to see the kids in foster care again. The family needed help then and will continue to need help. I can't see why family members didn't visit more often. If the family members were more involved the situation would have been visible. The girlfriend of Gary Staton knew how bad it was. The girlfriend chose not to inform the state or family members according to her interview. The girlfriend was a part of the problem and had not intention of being a part of the solution. I loved those kids and would have taken them back in a heart beat. I heard from them once in a while and I always told them to call if they needed me. My family fell in love with the kids. We helped them learn to read,write and be proud of themselves.I think family may be great,but sometimes family members can't do the job. The saying goes"It takes a village". We were a part of the foster care village. We want the best for the kids. Our doors are open

    Posted by: brandi on Oct 2, 2008 at 07:39 PM
    TO the WHOLE family of the Staton children... all of you are in my prayers. I have 4 children of my own and I am also raising 2 nieces. All of this with no help from anyone but my mom who works 2 jobs and my husband who works at least 60 hours a week while I go to school and try to put all of these kids through school and daycare and the only assisstance I receive is medicade for 3 out of 4 of my OWN kids!! now you tell me where there is help out there in NEBRASKA!!!!!

    Posted by: Anonymous on Oct 2, 2008 at 06:32 PM
    People break. If you've never been broken, thank God and keep your self-righteous degradations to yourself.

    Posted by: ANON on Oct 2, 2008 at 06:22 PM
    To look down on this father for what he did is pitiful. He made the right decision. None of these children are turning their back on him. Neither is his family. God bless him for not diving into the river with all of his children. Do you honestly think this was an easy decision for him. Shame on all of you who judge. He did the best he could do with what he had. He is very lucky to have all of these kids love him and understand. Society is screwed up these days. All willing to point a finger but not lend a hand. God Bless this family and the Mr. Stanton.

    Posted by: Brian on Oct 2, 2008 at 05:48 PM
    Alright so before he had the number of kids he had he should of thought will I be able to provide for these kids I will bring to the world? He should have made sure his finances were in order before having such a large family. I know the wife had died but still make sure you have finances or some way out before a problem such as this occurs. I am not doing judging it is in total opinion.

    Posted by: L on Oct 2, 2008 at 04:55 PM
    I could feel sorry for him if he wasn't out there dating, he quit his job, you don't quit your job when you are already having problems. Just think he is another dead beat dad who found a easy way out.

    Posted by: Delancey on Oct 2, 2008 at 04:46 PM
    I think it is sad that Mr. Staton did not appeal to his family for assistance before making this decision. They obviously care and love these children and seem very willing to help. I am so pleased that these children will be with a family member and not split up by the foster care system. Perhaps Mr. Staton made this decision out of grief as he has had a very tough 18 months. I wish the best for this entire famiy, especially the children!

    Posted by: Single mom on Oct 2, 2008 at 04:16 PM
    I have a 7 yr old and she has no idea who her father is...I just started getting support from him last year. I have tried to get assistance from the state...but when you have a job that you make some money in, it's always too much. I feel bad for this father dealing with the loss of his wife and then having to make the choice of what would be best for his children. Nobody has a right to judge unless you have lived the life of this man!

    Posted by: Sid on Oct 2, 2008 at 04:08 PM
    I hope he is able to find a job and get back on his feet again. Perhaps he can regain his coping skills. I can understand the family not asking if he needed help if he didn't respond to them.

    Posted by: Anonymous on Oct 2, 2008 at 03:55 PM
    Why did he not just ask his family for help in the first place. What a loser. J - I do not have 9 kids because I know I can not afford them and I do not even have a history of losing my job or being behind on me bills. They should sterilize the father so he can not ruin anymore peoples lives.

    Posted by: Mary on Oct 2, 2008 at 03:35 PM
    The dad, the family, I find myself not caring about these people. They are adults they can take care of themselves... or not. My main concern is the children and I hope they will have a good life. My worry is for them.

    Posted by: bluezoid on Oct 2, 2008 at 03:05 PM
    if the man lost his job and couldnt pay his bills, and couldnt buy the children food, they would have all soon been homeless. I guess he could have taken them to a homeless shelter to lay in beds side by side with other sick, alcoholic, homeless people. They could have held out their bowls to be filled with soup once a day. OR, well now at least they are warm and safe and dry and not hungry and well cared for. Did he do the right thing? I for one think he did.

    Posted by: S on Oct 2, 2008 at 02:58 PM
    I could not even imagine trying to raise 8 children plus a newborn and dealing with the death of your spouse. Why do some people have such a hard time asking for help and didn't the outside family have a clue that he was struggling? I am wondering how much assistance they were providing to a single dad raising nine kids and one a newborn. I don't think we will ever get the full background on this case. So sad. May God watch over those kids and help heal their hearts.

    Posted by: Tom on Oct 2, 2008 at 02:46 PM
    Thank you "J" Oct 2,2008 01:09PM you summed it up perfectly.

    Posted by: A on Oct 2, 2008 at 02:45 PM
    Did you all know there is a fund set up to help these children? We, as a community we should stop bashing the father and step up and start helping the kids - right or wrong, these kids still need help. The father was overwhelmed and in financial trouble. It is not wrong to have 9 children, the only thing wrong is that his wife died and he didn't get any help. DONATE TO THE "STATON CHILDREN FUND" at Wells Fargo!!!! Help these kids be a family with or without their parens! We don't knwo the whole story and should not judge him unless you step up and stand in his shoes. HELP THE CHILDREN!!!!

    Posted by: J on Oct 2, 2008 at 02:39 PM
    Those people who judge others must not have anything better to do or think they know all and are perfect. He didn't abuse the kids, he didn't ignore them, he simply was beyond being able to handle them since his wife died. Would you prefer he hurt them or worse? He did what the state said he could do if he couldn't take care of them anymore. For those of you who think they are better than him and think they can judge him, SHUT UP!

    Posted by: Debbie on Oct 2, 2008 at 02:21 PM
    Steve - "Always" help out there??? Have you ever tried to get help from the system? Just navigating the system to try and get help from the over-case loaded social workers is unbelievable. Just getting a returned phone call is practically impossible. Good point by "J" - we don't know what kind of mental and/or physical problems this father is (present tense) going through. I'd rather have any child, no matter what age dropped off at a care facility than left in undesirable conditions. After all, it shouldn't be about the parent - it should be about what's best for the child.

    Posted by: PSH on Oct 2, 2008 at 02:16 PM
    And another thing.... His daughter Amoria seems to be a well spoken young woman who has the ability to be empathatic to her father. If was apart of her upbringing it is obvious that he is not a evil, irresponsible demon that all of you stone throwers try to make him out to be. I bet if this man came to you for help you heartless people wouldn't lift a finger or spend a dime to help him.... So remember forgiveness and pray that these children are all o.k. in the end... And that this man is able to pull himself together....

    Posted by: PSH on Oct 2, 2008 at 02:12 PM
    For those of you who easily judge dig deep into your soul and try to put your self in this man shoes. Here is a man who has been with the same woman for many years through thick and thin. Do you really think that making the decision to drop his children at this hospital was easy? I don't know him or his family but I can bet you that he is living in his own hell right now. I had heard previously that the families utilities were turned off. Where was the extended family then? Where where all the resources that everyone says this man could have turned to? Nobody stepped into help him then? So what was he suppose to do? He was overwhelmed? Probably still grieving for his wife and spiraled into a deep depression. Do any of you negative nancy's think that maybe what he did was a selfless act putting his children ahead of himself? He now knows they have a warm bed and 3 square meals which he couldn't provide them. I bet all of you negative nancy's don't have a bone in your closet..

    Posted by: Anonymous on Oct 2, 2008 at 02:09 PM
    It's going to be a big adjustment, but the kids are better off. They were living in their own feces.

    Posted by: Essie on Oct 2, 2008 at 01:55 PM
    To you pathetic people who are spewing all this vitrolic venom towards this father - who are you to judge him? His own daughter has a better "take" than any of you! He lost his wife, he had no job, he had no home - where the heck was he going to house 9 kids ?? How was he going to feed 9 kids ?? How was he "taking advantage of the situation" by taking his kids to a safe haven so they could have a roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, and food in their bellies ?? Yes, he should have went to the relatives - however, Granny and Grampy aren't taking care of the 7 kids - they're in Lincoln at an aunt's home - even though the Manzers are appearing on TV on a daily basis. Maybe the family should have been in closer contact with him and could have seen that he was coming apart at the seams. At least he didn't kill his kids. He made sure their basic needs would be met, so personally I think he made the right choice.

    Posted by: Anonymous on Oct 2, 2008 at 01:48 PM
    If he would of done the unthinkable and harmed his children you would all be saying that he should of cared enough to given them up- who knows what would of happened had he kept them. Give him credit for admitting he needed help! There are other parents that should be so smart.

    Posted by: R on Oct 2, 2008 at 01:33 PM
    I don't understand why people are so upset. This is exactly what families did back during the depression when they couldn't take care of all of their children. This isn't a new concept it just isn't kept quiet like it used to be. Now the media blares it everywhere. I feel sorry for those who have no other options and are then critized in public.

    Posted by: J on Oct 2, 2008 at 01:09 PM
    To all of you throwing stones; do you have 9 children, and have you lost a spouse? Have you thought about how depressed he may be? About the grief he may be struggling with? Yes, he should have turned to family for assistance, but when battling depression and grief, maybe the answer wasn't so clear. At least he sought help instead of neglecting them, or abandoning completely. God forbid you have to face anything of this magnitude and be judged as you are judging.

    Posted by: Great on Oct 2, 2008 at 01:01 PM
    Hey, maybe this lowlife father knew what he is doing cause now it is national news (saw it on the Today show this morning) so somebody will probably want to make it into a movie and he will make millions. Maybe then he can take his kids back. Way to just give up...their mom is probably rolling in her grave.

    Posted by: ALex on Oct 2, 2008 at 12:53 PM
    I feel sorry that this was all he could reason to do. But, this is now an outbreak in Nebraska. Irresponsible people breeding. It is illegal in Nebraska for a stable, educated, employed Gay man or woman to adpot or even be a foster parent, but breeders can mentally damage their children. But the Christains rule and Gay people are demons.

    Posted by: A on Oct 2, 2008 at 12:12 PM
    Overwhelmed and stressed is not an excuse to abandon 9 of your children... it is selfish and wrong! He should be punished for doing this, he completely took advantage of the situation, Just because you are going through a hard time doesnt mean you give away your kids, you work through it and show your kids how to be responsible not just to give up! This story makes me absolutely sick!!!!!!!!!

    Posted by: Gunnar on Oct 2, 2008 at 12:11 PM
    It is not my place to judge others but, I can't help but wonder what Mr. Stanton is going to do now that he has no kids to care for vs. ten. Would he have enough resouces to take care of some of them?

    Posted by: Jarbeau on Oct 2, 2008 at 11:21 AM
    It sounds like he did what he felt was best for his children. If you disagree, then thank your Lucky Charms that you live in the U.S. so you can disagree.

    Posted by: Steve on Oct 2, 2008 at 11:15 AM
    I don't care WHAT kind of problems you have with your children, there's ALWAYS help out there. You just have to be willing to find it. For this "father" to do this to his kids is TOTALLY UNSPEAKABLE & COMPLETELY IRRESPONSIBLE ! ! ! He should NEVER be allowed to be able to have kids again.....EVER EVER EVER ! ! ! ! ! WHAT A POOR PATHETIC EXCUSE OF A FATHER ! ! ! What kind of a "man" does he consider himself ? It's totally assinine ! ! !

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